Last week I turned 25. The big quarter-of-a-century number. Growing up, I always saw 25 as the age when I would have my life together, that when this magical age arrived my career would be established, I would be financially secure, and my romantic life would be…basically set. Are you laughing yet? Then I actually turned 25. Surprise–my shit is not together, but I’m still doing pretty damn good. I’m making it on my own. Guess what? No one has it all figured out. I think as children we see adulthood as this magical/mystical age when we will know everything and be able to do whatever we want, whenever we want. As an adult now, it’s increasingly clear how untrue this fantasy is. I still look around sometimes for an adult to tell me what to do and then realize that the adult is me. Oh joy! At this point I’ve discovered that for me, growing up isn’t necessarily about the wisdom we gain (hopefully) as we age. It’s about being excited to buy new dishes and clean the burners on your stove and attempting to figure out the secret language of health insurance. What I’m trying to get at is that it’s okay to hit your mid-twenties and still be a little unsure about what’s going on. Challenges come at any age, all of the time. I’m learning to be happy with where I’m at right now and not to let the anxiety of where I think I “should be” overwhelm my life. I’m right where I’m supposed to be, and so are you.
I’m about to throw some yoga philosophy at you, so bear with me. In yoga philosophy there are the Eight Limbs of Yoga. One of these is Niyama, which is essentially a list of rules for personal observance. Of these, Santosa, or contentment, really pertains to what I’m trying to get at here. It’s about being content with what you have and where you’re at. It’s all about gratitude and being able to appreciate right now. This is not to say that you can’t have goals or dreams or wants. Practicing Santosa simply means that while you are striving for something, working towards a goal or want, you are still happy with what you have. My advice? Find something in every day that makes you smile, and know that you are doing your best. Remain grounded, but not afraid to fly when the time comes. My favorite pose that captures the sense of both being grounded and of being in flight is Warrior II (Virabhadrasana II). Here’s another fabulous drawing from the glorious Sarah Richards!
To come into this pose, take a wide-legged stance. Your legs should be about a leg’s-width distance apart. Turn your right foot so that it points toward the front of your mat and turn your left foot (your back foot) out in a 90-degree angle. Your front heel should be in line with with the arch of your back foot. Draw yourself up tall and engage your core. Raise your arms up into a “T” shape and bring your shoulders down and back. Gaze out over your front arm and feel the energy move from fingertip to fingertip and your feet planted firmly into your mat/the ground. Remain here for 5-10 breaths, and enjoy!
Have a good evening darlings! I hope your weekend has been filled with love, laughs, and warmth.